I DO want clarify that it’s absolutely possible to have multiple members of a pack fit under one category. So if you disagree with my line up for the SATC characters, that’s probably why.
What’s more, these characters are multidimensional, exhibiting a mix of traits, and their hierarchical status sometimes depends on their mood or circumstance. They’ve assumed Samantha is an Alpha because of her promiscuous ways, that Carrie and Charlotte are both Betas, and quiet frankly they don’t know what to do with Miranda. But why? I mean, they’re part of the ‘pack,’ right? It comes down to the fact that most are only aware of the Alpha, Beta, and Omega. First off, I found it strange that although Samantha and Carrie were mentioned quite often, Charlotte or Miranda were not. While researching other members of the female hierarchy, I found numerous references of Samantha being an Alpha, and Carrie being a Beta, so I thought I’d expand on this a bit. I just want her out of my life.” Funny, growing up, I always kind of knew my sis had some Sigma in her :). I don’t care if she tries to make me out as a liar or takes all my friends. My sis said, “Eventually, I just couldn’t handle it anymore. It seems a troubled member of her pack would try to exert dominance with violence when drinking, and then would plead for forgiveness, or lie and try to cover it up. I was telling my Alpha sister (by blood) about my situation, and I said something to the effect of, “I’m tired of said Delta $hatting on my life, and having to do damage control all the time.” My Alpha sis had gone through a similar situation with a friend, but mind you, the dynamic is different since my Alpha sister has a well-established ‘pack’ of friends. I wish her well, and I hope she finds peace with herself.
I can only get so close and tolerate so much. When confronted, she denied it, even though I had proof. Not only was she hanging my dirty laundry out, she was over exaggerating. Then things started to pick up more rapidly, and her diarrhea of the mouth became annoying. It was mostly harmless gossip, so I let it slide. Soon, I began to pick up tips that she’d been hanging my dirty laundry out to dry. She either thought they were stuck up, or my alliances and acquaintances rejected the idea – so maybe she’s right and they’re stuck up…I don’t know – I’ve always walked in those circles without a problem. As far as finding friends, that proved more difficult. I gave a few ex-boyfriends her number, and initiated contact for her, as she was too skittish to do it herself. Soon she began to talk about ‘expanding her circle’ and I found myself trying to think of people she could befriend or date. I figured she didn’t have anyone else to hang out with, and I was right. When she started wanting to hang out more, I reluctantly went along. The bullying and need for attention still lurks just under the surface, and manifests itself as serving of gossip & severe self esteem issues, with a side of cowardice. Long story short, she lost her mojo around the puberty years, and now resides under the Delta category, although she wears the mask of a perky Beta. She had three issues:1) People don’t like bullies 2) Boys at school were not attracted to her 3) She wasn’t confident enough to use suave coercion instead of force. When we were younger she was a solid Alpha, but border-lined bully-ville. When we were younger, I was aware that she was flippant, but I’d kept her around because she was always a good plan ‘B.’ I’d hoped she’d evolved over the years, after all, she had been through some trying circumstances, and her life had not been easy. I had an alliance from childhood who I’d reconnected with over the past year. Obviously I’ve been speaking out of the mouth of experience. If it’s possible they would sell you out, or be easily coerced, or have been known to have diarrhea of the mouth, then don’t be so foolish to think you are the exception. Do they know too much? Have you put too many of your eggs in one basket? If you think it’s a possibility, then it’s time to start distancing yourself. Furthermore, it goes without saying that you need to make sure your alliances are solid and of quality. When one alliance knows to much, all they have to do is open their mouth for a second, and disaster can strike. Unfortunately, lately I’ve had to learn the hard way that although alliances are necessary, as I’ve discussed in another post, it’s NOT healthy for a Sigma to get TOO close to any one alliance.
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